I attended a meeting about the product trio today.
Honestly, it's striking how people settle for a poor compromise. The product trio meeting ends up becoming just another backlog refinement… and they seem to think that's good enough.
Sorry, but that really frustrates me.

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We need to aim for the real deal – not settle for a light backlog refinement. In other words, don’t accept a poor compromise.
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Use technology, like AI, for note-taking – not everyone needs to be in the room.
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A product trio is not a meeting for clarifications – it’s a strategic arena. That makes it easier to engage, talk openly, and make good decisions.
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More people doesn’t mean better. When others (like team leads or domain experts) want to join, it’s likely a sign of ownership – but we should ask: is this really about control?
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And YES, you can absolutely have a product trio meeting even if you're working on a cross-functional system instead of a traditional “product.” As long as you’re developing something meant to create value – for users and for the organization – then it’s all good!
To you sceptical people outhere...how can we do it?For me, the solution is that we need to coach people toward what we know works.
Set a goal based on the ideal state: We know what good product trio practice looks like – for example, as described by Marty Cagan: an empowered trio (PM, UX, Tech) that owns both the problem and the solution.
We need to explain what the ideal actually is: This is not about introducing a new meeting format or a lightweight version of backlog refinement. It’s about building a strategic arena for continuous discovery. Exploration. Progress will come naturally, as long as the trio works through relevant increments.
We need to “push them” – coach people into building strategy through practice: It’s okay to start small. BUT… don’t jump straight into “refinement light.” Establish a real trio mandate, with backing from management. We can work with team leads and domain experts to clarify roles and avoid control need disguised as “involvement.”
More people is not better. Let’s use technology – send meeting notes instead. Not everyone needs to be in the room all the time. They can rephrase their input quickly with AI. That allows the trio to work focused and with accountability.
Truth is, we do know how to make this work.
So my final advice: if we’re not aligned across the org, or don’t get full support – c’est la vie.
We can advocate for our ideas, but still move forward where we are.
Or, said differently: better to create than to wait.